Whatever we're doing in life, more often than not, we simply need to really feel happier. Whether it's getting the larger home, the higher job or the proper relationship, we need to really feel happy.
Yet how many people have fallen into the entice of attempting, over and over, to make one thing work?
Whether it's a relationship, a challenge, a job interview and even assembling flat-pack furnishings, we fall again on the previous proverb:
" If at first you don’t succeed, strive, strive, strive once more. "
There are two issues right here:
- Going Slightly Mad: They say that doing the identical factor over and over, whereas anticipating totally different outcomes, is the one of many first indicators of madness. For most of us, "try, try, try again" includes simply that …
- "Trying" Gets Us Off The Hook: When we use the phrase "try" – both out loud or in our heads – we're giving ourselves unconsistent permission to fail.
Think about it:
" I'll attempt to get that finished by Tuesday. " Will it occur?
" I'll strive tougher to get it proper subsequent time. " Will or not it’s totally different?
What Not To Do
This shouldn’t be the time to surrender or admit defeat. Just as a result of your present method has not been working doesn’t imply there’s not one that can carry the outcomes you're hiring for. It's additionally not about focussing on what's been going mistaken or worrying about it. It has been mentioned that fear is simply an effective way of making a future you don’t actually need …
What You Can Do Instead
Do one thing totally different. If what you're doing shouldn’t be working, play with one other method. Look again to comparable conditions previously the place you have made it work and see if there are concepts you could possibly apply now.
Focus on what you need as an alternative , moderately than the place you are actually. Start telling a unique story. Breaking the cycle may flip issues round.
And as an alternative of the phrase " strive ", how about extra constructive phrases like "I will …" or "I can …" or – in the event you're not fairly certain – "I hope …"
Above all, if you don’t suppose you may, you can’t and you’ll not.
If it's value doing, then "trying" is much less more likely to get you there. How about rewriting the previous proverb:
" If at first you don’t succeed, change what you're doing. "
Instead of attempting too exhausting, over and over, how about tweaking your technique and watching how briskly you get to the place you need to be going? Are you able to make adjustments?
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